It’s Valentine’s week (let’s be honest – more like Valentine’s month) and while having a day dedicated to celebrating love is really nice, thoughts of love and its mysterious ways are more of an all year round kind of thing.
“I want to know what love is”, is one of the greatest anthems ever, it is also a sentiment most of us experience and profess during our life time. For each, the answer to that question is different.
When I was a teenager I loved those dramatic passionate famous love quotes, used to have them scribbled on notebooks and marked in books. Fittingly, my “love life” at that age looked much the same, dramatic, heart wrenching and yes – romantic. There’s just something about the emotional highs you reach with your first loves that you can’t really recreate later on with maturity (and well – being less hormonal).
These days, however, the love-centered quotes I like and collect, are a little less fiery, a little less of the burning all-consuming passion and yet they are filled with the promise of an enduring and long-lasting kind of love, these are my top 5 favorite “Love is” quotes:
“Love possesses not nor will it be possessed, for LOVE IS sufficient unto love”
That is the quote I think every couple starting their joint journey should memories. There never is a reason or a place for possessiveness within a relationship. To me love is a choice, once you choose to love each other, there is no need to hold on so tight in fear of losing each other – as long as you keep choosing each other through thick and thin, then your choice will sustain your love.
“For true LOVE IS inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have” Antoine de Saint-Exupery
I consider love, true heart on my sleeve kind of love, to be an act of bravery and trust. It’s not easy to give love freely, especially in this day and age when so many of us have walls up when so many of us get jaded in the quest for love. Once you find him/her, don’t be stingy with your love, it will come back to you many times over. I truly believe that if you love openly and freely you will get the same, love given with an open heart brings back a wealth of emotion and feelings.
“LOVE IS union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of one’s own self”
When you fall in love, the temptation and the tendency to immerse yourself wholly into your new partner’s life, is hard to resist. How many of you ladies and gentleman had the “disappearing friend”, the one that ghost themselves out of your life when she/he has a new love interest? During my twenties, I had quite a few of those. Love wholeheartedly, love fully, but remember that your new boyfriend/girlfriend fall in love with YOU – the person you were when they met you, don’t give up on what makes you who you are, no reason for it, maintain the integrity of your own self and you will maintain your love.
“LOVE IS friendship set on fire”
Be each other friends, foremost and always. It is so easy to fall into what I call “petty accounting” after the first glow of that romantic falling in love/honeymoon period, is behind you when real life set in. But if you remember to be friends first lovers/spouses second, then you will have an easier time getting over those humps. Friendship is an enduring force, how many friends do you have since childhood? Since grade school etc.? How many boyfriends/girlfriends came and went during that same time? Do the math. Be each other friends, it is the best gift you can give each other.
“Our first and last LOVE IS self-love”
Christian Nestell Bovee
LOVE YOURSELF! Be kind to yourself, embrace all of your gifts because you have many, love yourself and others will see that and love you in the way the beautiful person you are deserve to be loved.
Happy Valentine to all of you! May you love wholly, joyfully, fiercely and be loved back in the same way.